The power of they

The start off point today is if we all are equal the odds don't matter. Yet, in our minds there are odds and usually we say "they" or the odds are stacked against us. Alternatively we might feel so bad that the odds are against other people that we would not to want to be seen greedy and take our share. Now who is "they", they are other people right. Wrong, they are usually our very own idea, fears or misapprehensions, our predetermined ceilings of our worth. Now who are "they" again, they are the perceptions that we have that some people have more power than what we do. We believe that some people have the power to say yes or no to our dreams.

What I'm saying is that when we all give ourselves, the dignity we crave and the right to support and validate our own work, so many doors mysteriously open.

So instead of believing in the power of "they" think of yourself as the starting point and believe in yourself. Again, instead of sitting at home to afraid to start something, just go for it. You never know you might start your own business at 40 / 50 / 60. It's not written in stone when people put a figure to you that you need to be that figure.

This week is the week to be living stylish and just live life to the fullest and making those "they's" a no brainer.

Values

You can achieve any goal you put your mind to. Yet, what happens when you get what you think you want and your life still feels incomplete. The answer lies in how you prioritise your values and how you set your goals around them.

Defining one's values are not easy. Realising a true value and living up to it means letting go of an old way of life and making way for the new.

We all are unique and have values intrinsic to our true selves, my values might not be yours and your values are not less important than mine.

Values are what inspires us to greatness.

Being Forty

Age is relative and basically if you've got it, flaunt it that's my motto. Self confidence comes with time it is not something that most of us are born with. It is a skill that can be learned.

Some tips to overcome that shyness, awkwardness. Look at the reasons why you're shy. Sometimes it is easier to stay a wallflower than coming out and mingling. All of us are afraid of failure and want to be liked. When you are at an event or with friends and family talk to one person at a time. Set a goal to talk to at least five people in one evening and build from there. Start small talk about the weather, kids, family, work, food, movies. Cover the basics and take it from there, you'll be suprised how people can open up to you. Talk to people and listen to people.

Look around you and see who inspires confidence. Learn from them.

Develop a sense of humour, even when it is about you.

Make a point of always dressing comfortably yet stylish in something you feel confident enough in.

Confidence develops it doesn't happen overnight. There is going to be dissapointments make room for those and soldier on.

Trust yourself and be honest with yourself. Be happy with yourself.

Change usually involves taking risks, venturing towards the unknown. You're not alone on this path that's for sure.